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Both parents need to agree that children have the right to be protected from as much of the pain of their parent's conflict as possible. Therefore:
DON'T BAD MOUTH THE OTHER PARENT
Neither parent will speak disparagingly of the other, or will allow anyone else to do so in his or her presence.
Both will strive to be supportive of each other as parents to the children and of the other adults in their life: friends, extended family despite their differences in views, beliefs, and tastes and lifestyles.
DON'T DRILL YOUR CHILD FOR INFORMATION ABOUT THE OTHER PARENT
Both parents agree that they not ask the children to keep secrets from the other parent.
Each parent will respect the privacy of the other and will not question the children about the other parent's life.
Both parents agree that they not use the children as messengers.
GIVE YOUR CHILDREN PERMISSION TO LOVE BOTH OF YOU
Both parents agree that they not ask the children to choose between them knowing they have a right to give and receive love from each of their parents.
DON'T FIGHT WITH THE OTHER PARENT, ESPECIALLY NOT IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN
Both parents fully understand the detrimental effects of arguing in front of the children and will ensure that they are not exposed to this.
Both agree that decisions and discussions regarding the children will not be made with them present or able to hear the same until both parents have agreed on the outcome of any discussions.
No threats, No name calling, No blaming
Both parents agree that even a planned engagement won’t take place if either of them doesn’t feel confident that the visit will be successful.
THESE ARE ADULT DECISIONS NOT CHILD DECISIONS
Remind your children that the decision to separate was not in any way their fault and that their behavior could not have made you as parents separate or stay together.
THE Truth......
The only truth your children need to know is that you love them, will protect them and how as parents you will care for them.
This is the only truth that will help your children.
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